Kidz Kandles - Light a Candle for a Missing Child

Kidz Kandles - Light a Candle for a Missing Child

What advice would you give for 'new parents'

What advice would you give for 'new parents'

In this day and age of fast paced communications, electronic gizmo's, and a home environment that often requres both parents working to make ends meet; child rearing can often become a 'monumental' fright that often leaves one feeling ~ overwhelmed ~ and quite often * driven to banging one's head against a wall when life seems to be concentrated on one small circle filled with 2 a.m. feedings, constant diaper changes, and that ever present 'colicky sound' that every parent fears.

Yet those first few moments; in the silence that is often times shared between a new mom and dad as mom is holding their newborn child in her arms.....is a moment that will be treasured throughout the child's life.

For every time the * wee lass or ladd * produces that smile that says 'I Love You' those first few moments that you and your loving wife or husband spent in that sterile white room all comes cascading back to remind you just how much! that child means to you.

Yes, this man realizes there are going to be times when your ' little angel' will have you beating your head against a wall wondering " What did i say" or " What did i do to deserve your anger"...but those moments.....like life itself...soon dissappear. As time will always march on. Then one day; you and your spouse will awaken to a day, when your little baby is getting married/moving away. And yes, sometimes we make light of the situation by issuing the 'good riddance' line..as my father did ..but deep inside.....we know that we'll miss those moments spent striving for those single three words...... I LOVE YOU!

What advice would i give to new parents....

Patience!

Above all; when forming the basic foundation that we all base our lives upon; patience is one of the main building blocks. For with patience comes understanding. Understanding another's point of view; even though it might differ from our own, for each human being in this life has their own 'circle' that they must stay true to. Patience is the binding glue that allows each circle to connect and stay in touch with one another. As the old saying goes, 'the family that prays together, stays together!'

Love!

Unbinding, unfettered, and unwavering! Love; even and most importantly through the ~ worst ~ of times is another building block that will teach the child that no matter what happens in this world; if the CORE is based upon love.....then life in and of it's own...is going to make it! We all have moments when frustration and anger seem to overwhelm us... 'heavy traffic at rush hour is a good example ..LOL'

if the CORE is there...then those head bashing moments too; will eventually slip away...and all that will be left; again, is those first few precious moments.....when you saw your little one look up into your eyes....and SMILE!

By the Seat of your Pants Learning!

No one has 'all' the answers in raising children. Oh, sure mom or dad or grandma or grandpa have lots and lots of suggestions...some good, some you're not to sure you'd even use on the family pet!...but when it comes down to the 'meat of the matter'...Seat of your pants Learning is the best teacher there is. For no one knows what you are experiencing at that moment; only you!...If we learn from our past, learn from our own childhood, and learn MOSTLY to adapt to this ever changing world.....we WILL be able to raise our children with the fundemental knowledge that.... he/she is going to turn out to be ~ a pretty good egg ~ after all!

Making Time!

As we all contemplate the coming of a child in our lives; we then start thinking to ourselves...when will i have time for all that's involved with child rearing...the feedings, the doctor appointments, the school functions, the ....the list goes on and on. But these are decisions that you are not alone on. For every couple since the dawn of time with Adam and Eve felt and struggled with these overwhelming preponderances. 'How can i take jr to the baseball thing and yet still make that meeting that i HAVE to be at....what about 'dolly's rehearsal, i can't make it luv; what's your schedule like? In the realm of children; we as adults must make choices. But those choices should be always based upon what is best for the child. For the life you lead, will always be reflected in your child's eyes. As in the song Cat's Cradle...i found myself so busy i never had time...but when i did..my child learned from me..and then he never found time for me....

Choices we make today; will foretell the choices of tomorrow!

make time for the children! In the long end of it, the choice to ~ make time ~ will come back to you 100 fold!



All in all; when faced with the decision of 'should we have children' or ??

when balancing all the good and bad and in between;....one must balance it all

against that first smile and those three whispered words

that will tug at each ONE of our heart strings......

I LOVE YOU!

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